How to Keep Your Emotions in Check

by Texas Stready

Definitely an upbeat person. Anyone who knows me can vouch for this. But that’s not always true. My mental state can get as marred as anyone else’s. I get scared, hesitant, and discouraged too. Emotions. They can get—the best of—the best of us.

This time of year can be great, or it can knock you on your backside. That’s what I’ve discovered anyway. Christmas and then the New Year. They bring a sense of excited anticipation and a mountain of regret, all at the same time.


Don’t you ever wonder how this “Living on Purpose” deal works? I do. How will I ever make a living writing and speaking? If it’s my “purpose” shouldn’t it come easily? Sure seems like it.

A Radical Difference has grown, and I’m proud and excited to see what it is shaping up to be. Remaining in the process has unveiled hows, whats, and whys all over the place. But there’s so much to be done and so much I lack. Not just financially. Mentality and spirituality are just as important, and every day I see how lacking I am in all three areas. Disheartened. Sometimes that’s how I feel.


Can’t help but wonder if choice is a blessing or a curse. I mean, if we make the choice to submit to Christ, why can’t that just be the end of it? I realize I’m not God, and I assure you this is a good thing, but often I think my plan would be much more beneficial to Him.

As best I can figure, choice is power, and as creatures who are created in God’s image we crave it. So God, in His kindness and wisdom, gives us the power to make our own decisions. Not only that, dictator’s aren’t known for there kindness and our King most definitely is.


One of the things I’ve taught myself to say is, “Oh, that’s just how I feel.” Feelings come and go, and can never be solely relied on when it comes to good decision making. No way.

Because I believe this is true, when I recognize my emotions are running off, my first rational reaction has become to start reviewing all that’s good in my life. Wow, does that switch things up. Make yourself a list—here’s mine.

Top 10

  1. I’m fully convinced that everything about who I am matters to God.
  2. I’ve been clean and sober for almost 5 years and have no desire to use drugs. Miracle.
  3. My family relationships are through the roof (in a good way).
  4. I’ve sold 700 plus books this year and have 44 five star reviews on Amazon.
  5. I’m traveling and speaking with three separate ministries and that’s not to mention my personal speaking engagements.
  6. I was given a red Cadillac CTS. Awesome huh?
  7. I have almost 300 subscribers to my website and a small but dedicated following on A Radical Difference Facebook.
  8. I get weekly messages from people who’ve been enlightened by reading my book.
  9. I’ve left approximately 30 books in different prisons in the state of Florida.
  10. My life and my ministry have been featured in two newspaper articles, two magazine pieces, and two radio interviews.

…shall I go on? See what I mean? I get encouraged every time I read this part of the blog. This is my purpose and it’s working—almost in spite of me.

Be insistent

This time of year is good. A time when all of creation demonstrates to us how we should behave. The weather encourages closeness, the animals are in a restful state of regeneration, even the foliage is shedding the effects of the passing year—all in hopeful preparation for what’s to come.

With all that goes on in the human realm, it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle. My intention is not to discredit this monumentally important holiday season. Not me. I only want to help you keep your emotions in check. We don’t need to control every detail—more than we can handle. We can, however, learn to celebrate now, well. If we don’t, we’ll get beat up by the past and fearful of the future.

Don’t get carried away. Financially, spiritually, or emotionally. That’s not what it’s about. Don’t let your mind worry with all that needs doing or fixing. Instead, make a matter-of-fact decision to enjoy the simple moments as if they’re spectacular events—cause they are.

Stop the Whining Already!

by Texas Stready

My grandson Solace spends most of his time with me. No doubt he’s one of the greatest joys in my life, but as a three-year-old he’s still fully convinced that whining gets results.

All you have to do is surf the net, or watch T.V., to conclude that temper tantrums are a typical reaction in our society. Even when our age says we’re adults, we act like children when we don’t get our way.

As far back as the Garden of Eden we were complaining. What begins as a shoulder shrug often ends in a full-fledged fit of rage. Not a pretty picture.

Whining Alert

As Americans, our grumbling’s gotten way out-of-hand. We take life for granted. Everything from public transportation to Ted talks. And let’s not forget the vast spectrum of technological inventions we possess. We’ve got it all. The greatest country in the world. So why all the bellyaching?

Complaining and fault-finding are poisons that affect everyone they come in contact with. A negative thought or comment does more damage than a positive one does good. Sad but true.

Don’t believe me? Think back to a time when you worked your tail off to do something special for someone. Detailed your wife’s car, prepared a holiday dinner, or maybe charted out the optimal vacation. One “Why didn’t you?” can bring clouds to the sunniest of intentions.

Watch Your Mouth

Telling someone what they could’ve or should’ve done, means you’ve lost sight of what they did do. Could and should, have to do with yesterday and tomorrow. NOW—that’s all we’re guaranteed—and keeping in sight what’s right today rescues us from wrong thinking and heals our injured emotions.

Remember our attitude is formed by what we think, and our thoughts are made evident by what we speak. The Bible tells us, a person full of goodness in his heart produces good things; a person with an evil reservoir in his heart pours out evil things. The heart overflows in the words a person speaks; your words reveal what’s within your heart. Luke 6:41 VOICE 

Practice Different

We are responsible for what we say, but we are also in control of what we choose to believe. This tells me that if what I rehearse in my head is filled with hope and life, than one silly comment won’t have the power to break me.

We spend an incredible amount of time whining about what’s wrong instead of working to make things right. Well guess what? Change doesn’t just happen.

Here are three practical requests God would love to answer for you.

*Ask God to show you five truths He says about you—write them down. *Ask God to make these truth’s real to you—watch for them. *Ask God to remind you when wrong thoughts go against these truths, then stand up and read #1 out-loud—walk it out.

It all comes down to this: do you want different bad enough to do the work?

Snap Out Of It

I realize the above phrase can be taken as a harsh statement that lacks mercy. This may very well be true when it comes from another person, but I’ve found that being matter-of-fact in my self-talk helps me believe that change is possible. If I can’t see it, I can’t be it.

I mean come on, stop the whining already. Instead of habitually believing the lies, fight back by repeating what’s true. This habit well absolutely transform you from a cowering, thumb-sucking Christian into the spiritual giant you’ve been called to be.

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